Eilis has been reminding us for days that “The Happy Day” is almost here! ย Of course, to Eilis, that means her 10th birthday, which falls just 2 hours and 36 minutes after Valentine’s Day.
She has no real idea how much it hits me when she says “The Happy Day”. ย I don’t believe a woman with an epidural headache, recovering from 36 hours of labor and a c-section, could have been more deliriously happy than I was on February 15th, 2001.
There had been tremendous heartache in my road to being a mom. ย Brighid was a surprise pregnancy, after we had been told conceiving would be terribly difficult for me due to an issue known as Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). ย As overjoyed as we were to be having Brighid, the pregnancy was difficult, and ended at 31 weeks, when we were faced with the real possibility of a premature infant that would fail to thrive. ย Not an easy baptism into the sisterhood.
For 9 years after Brighid, we struggled with infertility. ย It was during this time that we lost three of the five babies I would eventually miscarry, and it seemed that there would be no more children for us.
So after a month long trek across the country, from Florida to New Jersey, and then on to Washington state, when it seemed I wasn’t going to ever be un-tired again, I took a pregnancy test.
Positive. ย Not yet a happy day.
After the losses we suffered, a positive sign on a pregnancy test meant nothing more than another $10 down the drain on a home test. ย But in working with the doctor who I credit with saving not only Eilis’s life, but my dreams to be a mother – Dr. Mark Denker from the Palm Beach Fertility Center – this time, we’d have our happy day.
The minute Eilis was born, 2:36 AM on Thursday, February 15th, 2001, U2 was playing on the CD player in the operating room. ย “It’s a Beautiful Day”. ย Forget that they lyrics sing about doom and gloom in some places. ย The chorus could not have rung more true. ย Not only was it a beautiful day, it was a happy day.
And Eilis, you have given me 10 years of happy days to celebrate. ย So when you ask, “How many more days until the Happy Day?”, I’m already there.





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